Jackhammer

The word jackhammer came from a friend who after telling her my story of how horrid this one man was said to me "Oh my gosh friend, like he jackhammered you!!". If you don't know what a jackhammer does, please youtube it. So I met this guy through a friend and he was supposed to blow my mind as she had heard good feedback - ok, we shall indeed try him out...

So, there we are making out. Now his tongue did some move that I can only describe as strange. It would attack my mouth, then my tongue and before I knew it it had disappeared, then it appeared again. It was the Sahara desert down under and I had waxed - felt like such a waste.

He proceeded to jackhammer me all night, you know sex is bad when you imagine having sex with the hottest man in the world and it still doesn't get you even slightly excited *deepsigh*. And shame, poor guy was working so hard, he was sweating and all, shame. I tried to change things up by getting on top and he wouldn't let me - like WTF!!!!!

As I was lying there being jackhammered, all I thought was: as soon as I leave here, I need to call my crazy dude and tell him I'm sorry and he needs to come back home, just like Cedric in Think Like a Man said to Gail "Its hard out here in the streets"

And so started my new get out of bad sex line "I am training the new ushers at church, I can't sleep over"

Mr Jackhammer *smh*

Mr Mink

Sitting in Cape Town, I can't help but think about a boy that we call "Mr Mink". Now I was minding my own business looking for a bathroom at a work function that we had here and I bumped into someone, who said "hey, aren't you guy from bar after absinthe's girlfriend?" my response, no darling, I am a free agent. with a BIG smile Mr Mink says "Ok cool, I will see you later then"

He was young, he looked young and I didn't recognise him, even after he tried to describe where I met him. GBF (Gay Best Friend) was with me and looked at me and we moved on. We bumped into him a bit later at another place and we coordinated our coitus that evening. It would be in my room because his roommate had also found someone. I had a roommate, what was I going to do with her now *think, think, think*. After trying to organise her a place to sleep she said she would just sleep and not make any noise, strange but ok. It must have been ok because I have always wanted someone to watch, but I digress.

I gave him my room card and told him to arrive in an hour and I would wait for him. He arrived and we started making out and trying very hard to be silent. Bra came off, pants came off, condom went on and then when I tried to feel my hand was pushed away - ooookkkk. As I waited in anticipation for the obviouse monster that was supposed to penetrate, I felt nothing............. But he was working hard. If you could see my face, I was in absolute shock and horror, so I decided to sleep. I don't know how long he was going for, I slept.........

In the morning, I opened for him and I think it was a high 5 or a fist bump, or was it a hug - who knows, all I knew was that it was an uncomfortable sleep with my head hitting the headboard. My friend then laughed at me becuase she says she heard no sounds - hahhahahahahahahaha!!!!!

He acted like I didn't know him the next day and was over him, but I was still curious, what happened? Was I just that drunk that I didn't feel anything? I had to find out. When we got back to Joburg, he called me up, his girlfriend was out of town, I could come to his place. I drive all the way to Pretoria and I indeed figured out what the problem was........... He was indeed a small boy *hidesface*. At that moment, I wished I could've drank more.

The name Mr Mink came from a picture that he sent me of his maybe 3cm member in a mink blanket. He was trying to entice me, now, I always wonder: Ladies, what are you telling to these little dick guys that makes them think they rock your worlds sooooo much???? Yes I went back again and again to Mr Mink - that also told me I had to get a handle on my alcohol and deal with my loneliness issues. You can't have bad sex just because you are lonely.

A couple of years later, he sends me an email: do you want some D? Me: I have a flu, maybe next time. As I have a sip of my martini in Hyde Park. Aint nobody got time for that!!

The OMG WTF GTFOH moment

Fast forward a couple of years, 3 to be exact with guy from bar after absinthe, must be honest, I was an honest woman when I was with him, well except for that night with a friend's friend but thats a story for another day.

It ended badly with us, and I mean badly. I was so mad, I drove to our house and demanded cutlery.
*Side note, don't get drunk and be mad and have keys to a place where you both lived and the ex is still there - it ends badly*

So here I was, 24 and single again. I hadn't had sex in about 3 months, varsity was starting the next day when my GBF told me there was a Miller Party at Inc. on Friday night. We were there looking all hot in VIP (the only way to party), perving over Sizwe Dlomo; now before your mind starts to wonder - I did NOT have sexual relations with that man. The patrone was flowing, hips were moving and then he looked at me....................


I had known this guy from work but I always looked from afar, because as I always say "don't shit where you eat", but the way he looked at me at that moment, I knew it was on. And somewhere in my patrone fuelled mind, it dawned on me: I haven't waxed in 4 months and I'm wearing a spanx.

We decided it was time to go home, he jumped into my car, we did the drunk McDonalds thing and went to his place. My two friends still around with us, we got to his place and my girlfriend wanted to sleep and knew it was going down. He threw a mink at her, now mink and a leather couch - you could just die from dehydration nje. But she ended up leaving after GBF told her to get out of there and come to his place.

 

In the midst of all of this, all I am thinking about is "what am I going to do with this spanx when I take it off" *think think think* It's too small to put into my clutch bag, I'll take it off and pop it into my food packet and grab it on my way out later for varsity and that's what I did.

Went to the bedroom and like that Boom Shaka song - it was on and about bloody time!!! It was awesome, even forgot I hadn't waxed.

*Side note: you GOTTA GOTTA keep it waxed, you never know when a "hard member" can come up in your life ;)

Got up in the morning, with my freakum dress and held my head up high as I walked into Vega that Saturday morning. Yes I was still drunk, yes I looked like the tramp I was a couple of hours later but I had just had possibly the best sex of my life - who gave a fuck, well I didn't. I don't understand girls who have issues with the "walk of shame" as some whore told me (I will tell you about her, nx); "for you its a walk of shame, for me its a lap of victory". So use that next time you leave a guys house at 10am in your club get-up ;)

He was strange for about two weeks at work and then we did it again, and again that night.

And he neve spoke to me again - WTF GTFOH

WTF Moment

I got invited to a braai with a friend of mine and the owner of the house had the hots for her and wanted her so Saturday we off to this house. Started getting our drink on and having fun, then one of the friends arrived - he wasn't too bad. The GBF said to me "Don't even think of it, he's got hair"!!!

We went to a place to get more drinks, had too much vodka for my own good and started dancing like a hooker I was told the next morning on the dance floor. And as I woke up I wondered how after flirting with this guy all night he did nothing, even after throwing all the signs that this could be the night. Hey, I am young, wild and free. The best part about being single is that you can "do whatever you like, whomever you like and whenever you like".

I met up with this same man a couple of months later and this time he ended up at my house. It was getting hot and steamy, got to the bedroom and then he says to me: I think I should go home. HUH!!???? Like WTF????!!! You don't get my bra off and get me all hot and bothered and then leave me hanging like that!!! In that moment, I understood why women raped men, you just can't do that to someone and think you can get away with it!!!

The unfortunate prayer

If you drink, you know the alcoholics prayer the morning after "God, I promise that if you make my head stop making noise, I promise I will never drink ever again (as you hang your head next to your toilet bowl)" I have heard people call this "praying to the porcelian Gods"

Now as I was lying in that bed, looking around and nothing being familiar, I started the "unfortunate prayer" which goes like this:
"Dear God, I promise if I am dressed under this sheet, I promise I will never drink again"
and then the great reveal - f*ck I'm not dressed! turns to right to see who is next to me, and its guy from bar after absinthe, and immediately wished I could chew my arm off from underneath him and dash. Maybe if I just turn him oooovvverrr and slip my hand out from under him and as I did that I heard "good morning" f*ck!!!

Guy in bar after Absinthe

Where was I again, oh yes, guy in bar after absinthe.

When we met at zoo lake and had the "lust at second sight". You know that moment when you scan the room and find that attractive guy and you say to your friend - "Ima f**ck him"? Thats the moment I had when I say him. He was musculine and tall and dark and hot. He had to leave for something and said we could meet him at his place. Below is the order of my thoughts at that moment:
1. He's hot - tick
2. He does sport - tick
3. Has a job - and tick
3. Has his own place -  and tick
4. Has a car - and tick :)

Happiness!!!

Now, there was never a description of the house or the car, just the belief that it does exist - big problem now but then I didn't care! All I thought was thank God I don't have to be our ride!!!!
Turned out he stayed at a school where he worked as a teacher - okkkaaaay. But he was a nice guy and ticked the good boxes, so we continue.

We had so much fun at his place and ended up at Franky Bananaz, remember how that was the hot spot, well it was like Tabboo for Bedfordview - hahahahaha. We all drank some more and danced, I think the songs that wer my jams at that time were Justin Timberlake's "Sexy Back" and Nelly Furtado's "Man Eater" - he should've known at that moment :when I was on the dancefloor with Gareth Cliff belting out "she's a man eater, make you work hard, make you spend hard, make you want all, of her love", that this would end badly for someone.

I got so drunk and ended getting outside the place. He then drives me to the garage and gets me a toothbrush - hahahahahahaha!!!! I don't remember the coitus because I was so wasted, I do however recall in the morning looking around the room and thinking - "that's not my curtain, that light doesn't look like mine"

The Birth

The birth of this blog has to be thanked to my two crazy friends who always say "you have the most interesting stories and meet the most random guys, you should start a blog" so finally after two years of nagging - here we are :).

What is this about? Firstly, let me introduce myself, I am a 27 year old (though I vow to be 25 forever) black female looking for love in Jozi as we call Johannesburg. This will follow my usually funny and strange encounters with men or boys as I call them. It will be scary, painful and mostly funny becuase I always look for the silver lining in it all.

I will take you to the beggining.......

I was 20, I still knew where my waist was, I was cool and finishing off varsity. I had just returned from a trip to London (that's a whoooole other story). I met a guy in a bar - or so he says- I think I had too much absinthe that night (first and last time). Actually, I was in Melville to meet another guy!

Ok, onto guy in bar after absinth. I don't recall talking to him or my friend talking to his friend, I was focusing on the guy I came to see - who didn't even call after that, thank goodness I didn't let him taste my milkshake. I must say other than the absinthe, I was rather well behaved that night, went back to my friend's place and we slept - no drama.

Then next day my friend, lets call her M (because honestly, I dont remember her name, I think it started with an M), gets a call from the friend the next day and this is how I met this guy whom we shall call A for confidentiality reasons :). We met at zoolake (I was young and in varsity, don't judge me) had some Savanna - God only knew how much I loved that drink. We started talking and it was lust at second sight - awwwwwuuuuuu!!!!


Let's fast-forward quickly to 7 years later, after the Soweto Derby my friend and I decided to hit Chaf Pozi for some braaied meat. Met a nice looking guy in the que for meat and we hit it off, exchange numbers. We start texting and then he says he's always busy, I mean no one is that busy even our own Jacob of Nkandla isn't that busy. A week goes by with no word from the dude and then he calls and it went a little something like this:
him: I don't think I can do dinner with you , or drinks or lunch
me: ok
him: I don't think my partner would appreciate it
me: ok
him: You don't want me to explain
me: no thanks, its fine. bye then
him: ooooook, bye
*click*
2 months later, nigga gets married - WHAT!!!!??????


I am sure that is more than enough juice for the day, we shall continue tomorrow ;)